I love to chat!
Posted December 15, 2008
on:- In: Anger | Anguish | Friendship | Life | Love | Relationship
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Kanhaai sat there with her novel and coffee mug, cuddled up in her “Tom and Jerry” blanket. She was missing Anaadya.
It had been a two days now since he came on-line. He told he would, didn’t he? Actually he promised… but then, when did he keep his promises!
They had met on-line around a year back. When they met on-line Kanhaai was 13 years and Anaadya 14. They were born on the same day, exactly one year apart. Initially it was just hi-hello and unexpected bump-ins. But as time passed they longed to talk to each other. And they chatted with each other for hours.
Kanhaai started getting dependent on him. She was a single child and her parents were busy professionals. She found a friend and a soul mate in Anaadya. As soon as she came home from school she would put on the PC and wait for Anaadya to come on-line.
She was a straight ‘A’ student till now. But her grades started falling. Her mother initially thought it was due to the adolescent changes. But when for three consecutive tests her grades didn’t improve she started worrying. She sensed the changes occurring in her daughter and she didn’t like it. Something was amiss.
But Kanhaai’s father waved her concern away and told her that she was getting unnecessarily worried.
Kanhaai was getting more aloof and most of her time now passed in front of the PC. She was no longer an active teenager who loved sports nor was she interested in anything. The bolt for the parents came when one day they were called to the school and were reprimanded by the principal for Kanhaai’s constant fall in academics and extra curricular activities.
When her father looked at her in the evening she suddenly looked pale and withdrawn and he realized that his daughter has changed… He cursed himself for letting the things go so far. But it was not too late yet.
They both took Kanhaai to a psychiatrist and she was diagnosed with internet addiction. But what hit them hard was that she was involved with a person, almost of her age, on internet and…
What they came to know about the relationship was so horrifying that they could not believe what they heard.
Their child falling prey to internet sexual abuse and extortion!
Kanhaai’s mother couldn’t hold herself. She blamed herself for not being there for her daughter’s crucial years. But this was not the time to blame anybody.
They were explained by the psychiatrist that scolding or reprimanding the child would only get the intense rebuke. This was the time to be patient.
Epilogue: Cyber Cops were able to nail down “Anaadya” who, as turned out to be, was not 14 but 41 years old and was a pervert; mainly involved in sexual abuse and pornography.
Kanhaai is slowly recovering not only from the addiction but also from her depression and mental trauma. Recently she got a ‘C’ for her Math monthly test.
54 Responses to "I love to chat!"
Kanhaai is now online! The latest I heard from her is that she’s got a ‘B’ in Science 🙂
Sakhi: 🙂 😀
You have touched upon a topic that is quite prevalent in cyberspace these days. Beautiful story and scary character names 🙂
I am glad that the psychiatrist identified her problem quickly.
Sakhi: Though in India its is a long way to go when internet addicition is taken seriously.
And for scary names— 😛 😛
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Shucks!!!
But frankly this is the reality…
We try to find reality in virtual life which is all but real.
Not on such a serious note, I remember a colleague of mine had very happily gone to meet a female chatting friend of his. She turned out to be male 😀
Loved the story.
Sakhi: yeah its so easy to cheat on net and that too, with those people you don’t know (so prolly guilt doesn’t come in picture!!)
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You should never chat on internet with someone unless you know that person. Who knows who is there on the other side. Somehow the whole setup is very uncomfortable.
Ofcourse, there are exceptions like Fruity! One lucky girl!
Good story!!
Sakhi: Yes fruity is lucky but it would have been a disaster of life had something gone seriously wrong. I absolutely agree about not chatting with unknown persons.. specifically in chat rooms and acceptiing invitations from unknown people on socialising sites just to increase the number of friends…
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A very common incident. Who’s responsible? Parents are and I feel if parents can’t take time out from their busy schedules to pay attention their own kids, it’s their loss and the kids’. It’s a sad situation. Sometimes the damage done by incidents like these is permanent. Harsh reality of today.
Sakhi, very nice writing. I sometimes feel that those parents can’t take proper responsibilities of kids shouldn’t have kids!!
Sakhi: Thanks
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Hmmm.. Hope Kanhaai recovers soon. Now-a-days, kids know more on www than we know 😀
Loved the twist in the end.
Sakhi: Thanks!
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Good Morn, a story at last, enjoyed it as usual…laughed when I read u were not in an Eng medium school, most Indian Writers aren’t actually 🙂
Your story ilustrates, once again, how parents fail to give quality time to children. That is the most imp way of sharing “love” yet, tht never happens – love gets substituted with bejaan material gifts….
As for the Internet, in our school, children do everything on the Net in school – even chat. So, they find it easy to come and ASK, therefore, each quesn becomes a teaching opportunity – strengthening the child against things it shd be wary of. Also peer sharing-teaching goes on continually….
Like everything else in life, if children are guided, trained, and are cared for ( wh means enabling them, really, to take life on, on their own, without disabling them in the name of ‘loving’) – they pick up fast soon becoming OUR teachers 🙂 Nita is right.
Sakhi: Along with Nita, you are absolutely right!! 🙂 I wish my kiddo is armed for these things in school or atleast by me!! 🙂
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O thanks, proud to be on YOUR blogroll, hadn’t noticed before! 🙂
Sakhi: hee…heee…hee… you are there since quite sometime!! 🙂 and its my pleasure, indeed!!
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i never could digest the fact that people fall for such internet activities with strangers..!!
but the sad thing is that it do happen..
nice fiction and and an education material too..
!!
Sakhi: Thanks! 🙂
And welcome to my blog 🙂
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You really cant trust people on the internet.. They appear to be the best people u’ve met, and then one day you realise how wrong you were.. its horrible.. really..
Sakhi: Yeah, too much trust can create problem for us!
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so true, sites like Orkut, Facebook etc are a haven for sexo-psychics… people need to watch out and maintain adequate privacy… It is extremely dangerous for young immature guys and gals… they just tend to go with the flow and end up ruining themselves….
nice informative and educational story btw… 😀
Sakhi: 🙂 🙂 thanks and welcome to my blog..
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Nice story.Reminds me of the time I was hooked to online chat rooms.
Thankfully, I grew out of it, and nothing untoward ever happened. But its scary how vulnerable and naive people (especially kids) are while chatting online!
Sakhi: thank God for that!! 🙂
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Excellent story. And its interesting reading the comments loaded with advice for youngsters. The fact is kids will be kids and they will explore the world around the. If a supporting offline structure is provided, they just may not fall prey to predators .. but there is no guarantee, is there?
Sakhi: you are right, there’s no guarantee! But a little caution will always help!! 🙂
I have made some great friends through chat. I was in a relationship that lasted many years and it all started with chat. I guess it depends on the maturity of the people involved.
Sakhi: You are one of those lucky people… I know atleast four people now who were comfortable with online relationships. And anyways this story just put forward a point and not that this IS going to happen. 🙂
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I can totally relate to this story personally. I came across a person through chat, we sat for hours on chat, we were not in love thankfully, but at last it turned out to be a 46 year old woman who was chatting using her daughters id. Things came out gradually when the phone numbers were exchanged. The daughter (whom I thought was my chat friend) was forced to talk with me and the james bond that I am found it out ! Stopped all contacts with the mother-daughter duo and also stopped chatting with unknown people beyond a limit.
Btw, I liked your story, but more because of my own experience !
Sakhi: OMG!! 😯 you really faced that?? Thank God you weren’t in love…
Whatever the reason, most important is that you liked the story!! 🙂 🙂
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i find it strange that people can just start chatting online. i mean, i talk to a lot of strangers, but i do it in person.
this doesn’t sound like one of your stories at all – in fact, it sounds more like a news item.
Sakhi: I do talk to a lot of blog friends on chat but i know them through their writings… i hope i don’t face any such things ever!!
And i absolutely agree to your observation about the story looking like a news item… hope i do better next time!
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Absolutely agree withyou Nomad!! But things are most of the time not only in our hands. Best thing is to guide them and be friends with the kids so that they don’t have to find love and friendship outside the home. Though with both parents workind and nuclear families, time and talks are becoming luxuries! 😦
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Haa…ha..ha.. Not all girls are stupid, sweetie!! 🙂 🙂
Some of them are more gullible then others!
BTW how are you doing and your studies??
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hi.. sakhi..
once again i m very late for comment session.
anyways, i like yr stories especially the endings.
any child should not allowed internet access privately, without any supervision at all, not only this, they get direct access to porn sites also BUT in india, many parents feel proud about it (providing personal access).
child should be given freedom, BUT it should be supervised by parents. (i know, one my uncle allows his son to use all mails, orkut and everything……. but he had also kept password of his all accounts with him)
bye for now.
keep posting good stories. 🙂 🙂
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yr names in story, goooood one. it also shows that u hv good imagination for that also like stories………
Sakhi: Aww… thanks! 🙂
i believe that nowadays we can’t deprive any child of com. or of googling and so more…… so all bachha should be given cyber education (also sex education) by school, if not than definitely by parents.
Sakhi: Absolutely
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You have been awarded. 🙂
http://varun-giridhara.blogspot.com/2008/12/apologies-awards-cricket-and-christmas.html
Sakhi: Thanks!! 🙂 🙂
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1 | Sharad
December 15, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Internet can be dangerous, specially when it becomes addiction and that too at an very young age.
Poor Kanhaai.. but atleast due to psychiatrist help, her parents could found out the root cause of her problem, Many people just don’t think internet can be of any troble.
There are many Anaadya in the cyber world, and smart ass too… once I got an email from a girl, it turned out that some1 has given her my email on a meebo chat room. I was horrified, but I couldn’t do anything abt it…
One needs to be very very careful, while giving out personal details.
I hardly see any kid playing hide-n-seek, ice-water, dibba down, sitoliya these days…all are glued to TV or internet.
Nice post Sakhi 🙂
Sakhi: I know how it feels though i have never been addicted myself but do feel an urge now and then to check who is online, whether i can talk to them and so on!!
I am glad you didn’t enter in the viscious cycle.
But i disagree with you when you say that the kids don’t play out door games anymore… i se them playing all the time but yes not as much as we used to play since the study pressure has increased since our time!!
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